Be Proactive, Not Reactive

While the world sleeps, you build.

While others rest, you prepare.

Morning comes, and you rise just like everyone else—calm, focused, and ready.

At work, you don’t panic or rush. You review what you built last night and deliver results that speak for you.

When pressure increases and others react, you stay steady.

Because success isn’t created in chaos—it’s created in quiet discipline.

Do the work early.

Move with confidence later.

That’s the mindset. That’s the mood. 💻🔥

Catch-22: Life’s Tricky Loops 🔄

Life sometimes puts us in a Catch-22—a situation where every choice feels impossible and winning seems unlikely.

I still remember the toughest moment between graduating and landing my first job. It took me three months to find employment, but those months felt like three years. Every day came with costs—transportation, food, house rent, and making copies of my CV. You feel embarrassed asking your family for money, even though you’ve already graduated and are supposed to be independent.

And the paradox?

You win almost every exam, get shortlisted, and reach the final step—but they drop you just because you refuse to pay 80–100k ETB. No one cares. Imagine paying 100k ETB to be hired for a 10k monthly salary.

Sometimes, you need experience to get hired, but no one hires without it. You try freelancing to build a portfolio, but clients ask for previous projects you don’t have.

Time flies. Soon, the next batch graduates, and suddenly your CV and credentials feel “expired,” and you feel almost retired without ever getting hired. I hope many of us have felt this same pain.

Frustrating? Absolutely. But these moments teach powerful lessons:

💡 Family support matters more than ever—job seekers still need help even after graduation.

💡 Patience and persistence are key—never give up, even when the path feels impossible.

💡 Systemic support is essential—welfare associations or job support organizations should exist at a national level, like in other countries. Examples include:

• USA: CareerOneStop, Goodwill Industries

• UK: National Careers Service, Jobcentre Plus

• Germany: Bundesagentur für Arbeit (Federal Employment Agency)

• Canada: Service Canada / Job Bank, YMCA Employment Services

• Australia: JobActive

Remember: Catch-22s aren’t walls—they’re puzzles waiting for the right move.

Microwave Growth

Some things can’t be rushed. You can’t just put growth in a microwave oven and expect perfection.

Whether it’s learning a new skill, building a career, or developing a project, trying to force it usually backfires. Real progress takes patience, effort, and time.

💡Lesson: Give yourself the time to grow because good things don’t happen overnight.

Storm in a Teacup

We, as human beings, are faultfinders by nature. Sometimes we blow small stuff out of proportion—we try to make a storm in a teacup. Some problems are tiny, yet we turn them into mountains and even blame someone for them.

Dear comrade, relax, keep it simple, save your energy for the big picture, and move on.

💡 Takeaway: Focus on what truly matters, not the little things.

Burning Ice

Not everything that looks shiny is actually safe. Some wins? They’re just burning ice.

It reminded me of the Oromos' idiom: “Heeruma dharraanee, heerumnaan rarraane.” 

Meaning: We over-wished for marriage; we were overwhelmed later after marriage.

Take a closer look before celebrating too soon. You might be holding something that’ll hurt later.

💡Takeaway: Don’t just chase the shine. Focus on what really matters.

 Why Good People “Turn Bad”  

🤔The Untold Truth

Some of the kindest, most genuine people slowly become distant, sharp, or even cold. It’s not always a change for the worse—sometimes, it’s a response to the world around them.

🔹 1. The Weight of External Pressure

Life isn’t always kind.

Financial stress, toxic work cultures, and personal burdens can push people into survival mode.

When kindness is mistaken for weakness, people learn to armor up—often at the cost of their softer side.

🔹 2. Painful Experiences & Betrayal

Trust is fragile.

A loyal friend may become distant after repeated betrayals.

A compassionate leader may grow cold after being taken for granted.

Pain doesn’t just hurt—it transforms.

🔹 3. Psychological Shifts

Constantly giving without receiving? It’s draining.

Eventually, people adapt.

Not by becoming bad, but by becoming wiser—more protective of their time, energy, and heart.

The truth is, most people don’t turn bad—they turn guarded.

They evolve. They learn to balance kindness with boundaries.

Because in a world that constantly tests your spirit, protecting your peace is power.

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Dhiifama (Forgiveness)

"Dhiifama gochuun mo'amuudha" jetti barruun asii gadii:

Yuunivarsitii tokko keessatti guyyaa tokko barsiistuun saayikooloojii barattoota isheetiif assaayimentii kenniteef. Assaayimentichis akkas jedha. "Dinnicha/moosee irratti maqaa nama jibbitanii barreessitanii fiddu. Hubachiisa, "Baay'ina hamma nama jibbituu nama tokkoof dinnicha tokko" jettee itti himte. Barattoonnis guyyaa itti aanutti, warri kaan 1, warri kaan 3, warri kaan 6-10'tti fidanii maqaa namootaas tokkoon tokkoon isaa irratti barreessan. Barsiistuunis "Hunda isaa boorsaa keessan keessa kaa'aa, hanga torbee tokkoottis keessaa hin fuutani. Boorsicha yeroo ciistanis, mana fincaaniittis, ofirraa hin buuftan" jettee ajajje. Gaafa guyyaa sadii fi afur bulu dinnichichi tortoree foolii kennuu jalqabe. Gaafa shanii fi ja'a ga'u garmalee ajaa'uu jalqabe, keessaayyuu abbaan dinnicha kudhanii baay'ee rakkate, ulfaatinnis ni jira.

Torban tokko booda fidanii barsiistuutti himan. Torban xumurreerra jedhan. Barsiistuunis "Akkam ture ba'aan torbee?" jettee gaafatte. Hundumtuu guungumanii "Baay'ee nu rakkise barsiistuu keenyaa, baayee rakkanne ba'aan isaas nu rakkise, fooliin isaas baayee nu miidhe" jedhan. "Agartan mitii? Jibba boorsaa keessan keessatti torban tokko baachuunuu isinitti cime, lapheefi sammuu keessan keessatti umurii keessan guutuu baachuun hammam haa cimuree? Kan torbee tokkotti hangana isinitti ajaa'e laphee keessan keessatti immoo hagam ajaa'aree?" jetteen.

"Dhiifama gochuun mo'amuu miti; boqonnaa sammuuti"

Via: Mo'aa Kudhama

Just START and you will be surprised with the result

Just START and you will be surprised with the result.

The only thing expected from you is being patient and ready to accept risk.

15 Golden Rules for WO/MEN

Here are 15 golden rules for both men and women to follow in various aspects of life:

1. Respect Others: 

Treat everyone with respect and dignity, regardless of their background or status.

2. Practice Integrity: 

Be honest and uphold strong moral principles in all your dealings.

3. Pursue Education: 

Continuously seek knowledge and self-improvement, both personally and professionally.

4. Maintain Healthy Relationships: 

Foster positive, supportive relationships and communicate openly and honestly.

5. Stay Fit: 

Prioritize physical health through regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate rest.

6. Be Financially Responsible: 

Manage your finances wisely, save for the future, and avoid unnecessary debt.

7. Embrace Diversity: 

Appreciate and respect cultural, ethnic, and individual differences.

8. Practice Self-Care: 

Take time to care for your mental and emotional well-being through relaxation, hobbies, and mindfulness.

9. Set Goals: 

Define clear, achievable goals and work diligently towards them.

10. Give Back: 

Engage in community service and help those in need, contributing positively to society.

11. Cultivate Patience: 

Practice patience in all areas of life, understanding that good things often take time.

12. Be Adaptable:

Stay open to change and be willing to adjust to new circumstances and challenges.

13. Show Gratitude: 

Regularly express appreciation for the people and opportunities in your life.

14. Live Authentically: 

Be true to yourself and your values and strive to live a life that reflects who you are.

15. Seek Balance: 

Strive for a balanced life, giving appropriate time and energy to work, family, friends, and personal interests.

How to handle emotions

Here are 8 golden ways to handle emotion.

Behaviors of Confident Person

What are Behaviors of Confident Person

They have a calm demeanor, relaxed expression on face and an open body language.

They listen more than they speak.

They understand the difference in being assertive and being arrogant.

They are not desperate to prove themselves when in a group. They don't feel the need to talk all the time.

In a conversation, they are not in hurry to speak.They don't interrupt. They wait for their turn.

They don't panic when someone abuses them instead they respond in an assertive manner and with a controlled aggression.

They maintain eye contact.

They have ability to laugh at themselves in front of people.

They don't hesitate to apologise when they are wrong. They own up the responsibility.

They know when to say ‘NO'. They say it politely but firmly.

They don't look for others' validation when they know they are doing or saying the right thing.

Thanks for reading..😊😊   

Source: https://joshisspace3134.quora.com/What-are-the-behaviors-of-a-confident-person

Respect Your Self

 11 Ways to Respect Yourself

1. Stop looking for who is not looking for you.
2. Stop begging others.
3. Stop saying more than is necessary.
4. When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.
5. Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.
6. Reduce how often you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate.
7. Invest in yourself and make yourself happy.
8. Stop entertaining gossip about other people.
9. Think before you talk; 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.
10. Always look your best; dress the way you should be addressed.
11. Be good at what you do; strive to be the best.

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Once please

"
Never use your academic excellence to undervalue people."

<Some one>

Afaankee Walitti Qadaadi

SHUT YOUR MOUTH

Buying a house?

Close your mouth.

Buying a new car?

Close your mouth.

Getting married?

Close your mouth.

Going on a holiday?

Close your mouth.

Going to do a course?

Close your mouth.

Got promoted?

Close your mouth.

99% of the time the reason that our dreams/visions don't come true when they are supposed to, is because we open our mouth too soon to the wrong people at the wrong time.

We were wrong to share our projects/successes with people who claim to be "friends". The envy and the low key jealousy is enough for people to feed off and tear down what COULD HAVE BEEN, before it even happens, so... Close your mouth!!!

The majority of your "friends", want to see you do well but Never better than them!!

And just a reminder! Even Some family members have a hidden envy!!!

But, they can't stop what God has for you!

Be Wise , Remember If Fish closed its mouth The hook of the Fisher man won’t catch it.

A word is enough for the wise."

Habits That Need to be Stopped Now

1. Studying in bed - Your bed is made for sleeping, it is your comfort place. Try finding a new environment, other than your bed to study in and you're most likely to get more work done.
2. Aimlessly scrolling through your social media accounts if it is of no benefit to you
3. Stop drinking, smoking and doing drugs
4. Avoid watching porn
5. Stop letting people take advantage of your kindness
6. Start learning how to say “no”
7. Avoid leaving your deadlines til’ the last minute
8. Stop ‘forgetting’ to take your make-up off before going to sleep
9. Avoid looking at your phone before going to sleep
10. Avoid sleeping late
11. Try not to doubt yourself too much
12. Stop surrounding yourself with negative people
13. Stop gossiping
14. Stop slandering
15. Don't stick your nose in other people’s business
16. Stop making every aspect of your life public - nobody wants to see what you ate for breakfast
17. Don't lie because you’re afraid to hurt the other person’s feelings. Speak the truth.
18. Don't skip meals
19. Stop snacking when you’re not hungry
20. Stop overspending and start saving money
21. Try to avoid watching too much TV
22. Start using your time wisely
23. Stop forgetting to wear sun-screen on a warm day
24. Stop pondering about the past and start focusing on the present
25. Stop procrastinating
26. Stop forgetting to COMMENT a post after reading it

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Stop Procrastination!

The man who spent time waiting for the right opportunity to shoot his shot.

If you wait until it is the right time, you may be waiting forever!

Start do and do it again, again and again that is the opportunity.

Read this:

Stop Procrastination!

Procrastination is a common challenge that many people face in their daily lives. It can prevent us from reaching our full potential and completing tasks on time. But fear not, there are strategies and techniques you can use to overcome procrastination and boost your productivity. Let me explore some effective methods to help you stop procrastinating once and for all. One effective strategy is to break tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks. This can make the work feel less overwhelming and easier to tackle. Additionally, setting specific and achievable goals, creating a schedule, and eliminating distractions can also help you stay focused and on track. Remember, overcoming procrastination is a gradual process, so be patient with yourself and celebrate small victories along the way. By implementing these techniques consistently, you can develop better habits and increase your productivity in the long run.

NB: Sometimes later becomes never. Quit procrastinating and DO IT NOW.

The Happiest Man on Earth

 "The Happiest Man on Earth" by Eddie Jaku is a memoir that recounts the author's experiences as a Holocaust survivor and the lessons he learned about resilience, kindness, and the pursuit of happiness.

Here are ten lessons from the book:

1. The Power of Positive Thinking: Eddie Jaku's unwavering optimism and positive outlook on life, despite enduring unimaginable suffering, serve as a testament to the transformative power of positive thinking in overcoming adversity.

2. The Importance of Resilience: Resilience is the ability to bounce back from hardship and adversity. Jaku's resilience in the face of persecution and loss highlights the strength of the human spirit to endure and persevere.

3. The Value of Kindness: Acts of kindness, no matter how small, have the power to make a profound difference in the lives of others. Jaku's experiences demonstrate the importance of compassion, empathy, and generosity towards one another.

4. The Dangers of Hate and Prejudice: The Holocaust serves as a stark reminder of the dangers of hate, prejudice, and discrimination. Jaku's story underscores the importance of combating intolerance and promoting acceptance and understanding.

5. The Gift of Forgiveness: Forgiveness is a gift that liberates both the forgiver and the forgiven. Jaku's ability to forgive those who caused him harm illustrates the transformative power of forgiveness in healing wounds and fostering reconciliation.

6. The Beauty of Diversity: Diversity enriches our lives and communities. Jaku's experiences highlight the beauty of embracing diversity and celebrating the richness of different cultures, religions, and backgrounds.

7. The Fragility of Freedom: Freedom is a precious gift that should never be taken for granted. Jaku's story serves as a poignant reminder of the fragility of freedom and the importance of safeguarding democracy and human rights.

8. The Resilience of the Human Spirit: Despite enduring unimaginable suffering and loss, Jaku's story is ultimately one of hope and resilience. His ability to find joy and meaning in life, even in the darkest of times, is a testament to the indomitable nature of the human spirit.

9. The Power of Love and Family: Love and family provide a source of strength and support during times of hardship. Jaku's deep love for his family and his determination to survive for their sake underscore the importance of familial bonds in sustaining hope and resilience.

10. The Pursuit of Happiness: True happiness is not found in material wealth or external circumstances but rather in cultivating gratitude, finding meaning and purpose, and cherishing the moments of joy and connection that life has to offer.

These lessons encapsulate the profound insights and universal truths found in Eddie Jaku's inspiring memoir, inviting readers to reflect on the enduring values of resilience, kindness, and the pursuit of happiness.

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RULES OF LIVING WITH PEOPLE

 RULES OF LIVING WITH PEOPLE

1. When you meet young people - INSPIRE THEM.

2. When you meet children - EDUCATE THEM.

3. When you meet old people - HELP THEM.

4. When you meet wise people - STUDY THEM.

5. When you meet leaders - HONOUR THEM.

6. When you meet foolish people - AVOID THEM.

7. When you meet humble people - TREASURE THEM.

8. When you meet arrogant people - IGNORE THEM.

9. When you meet gracious people - EMULATE THEM.

10. When you meet aspirational people - ELEVATE THEM.

11. When you meet strong people - SUPPORT THEM.

12. When you meet godly people - BLESS THEM.

13. When you meet elderly people - RESPECT THEM.

14. When you meet weak people - STRENGTHEN THEM.

15. When you meet hardworking people - ENCOURAGE THEM.

16. When you meet kind people - ESTEEM THEM.

17. When you meet Honest people -

PROMOTE THEM.

18. When you meet virtuous people - REWARD THEM.

19. When you meety evil people - EVADE THEM.

20. And in all situation “ Watch, Pray and wish everyone well.

1. Dr. Ben Carson said, "I struggled academically throughout elementary school yet became the best neurosurgeon in the world in 1987."

LESSON:

Struggling is a sign that you are on a verge of success. Don't quit yet.

2. Bill Gates said, "I didn't even complete my university education but became the world's richest man."

LESSON:

School does not make you rich. School is only supposed to polish what will make you rich, not make you rich.

3. Christiano Ronaldo said, "I told my father that we would be very rich but he couldn't believe me. I made it a reality."

LESSON:

Your words rule your life. If you mean what you have said, each word will come to pass. You get what you say.

4. Hear Lionel Messi!

"I used to serve tea at a shop to support my football training and still became one of the world's best footballers.

LESSON:

Believe in your dream. Don't let your pain tell you how your future will look like.

5. Steve Jobs penned, "I used to sleep on the floor in my friends' rooms, returning coke bottles for food, money, and getting weekly free meals at a local temple, I later on founded Apple Company."

LESSON:

That you are small today doesn't mean you will be small tomorrow. Keep trusting God.

6. Former British PM, Tony Blair said & I quote, "My teachers used to call me a failure, but I became a Prime Minister."

LESSON:

Don't let someone else's opinions of you become your reality.

7. Bishop David Oyedepo said, "I started Living Faith Church from a lawn tennis court with three members only & preached prosperity. Many of my friends criticised me, but today we have the largest church auditorium in the world & two world-class universities."

*LESSON:* Believe in yourself even if no one does & never think of quitting.

8. *Nelson Mandela said,* "I was in prison for 27 years & still became president."

*LESSON:* You can be anything you want to be no matter where you have been or what you have been through.

*9.REECE* "I drove a taxi to finance my university education but today I'm a billionaire."

*LESSON:* Don't let your past decide the kind of future you need to have.

10. *Harland Sanders, Founder of KFC said,* "I was on the verge of suicide when an Idea of opening a restaurant hit me after I retired as a cook in the Navy."

*LESSON:* Nothing is ever too late. "Too late" is a language of failures. Your future can begin at any age. Don't ever let AGE limit you.

11. *Aliko Dangote said,* "I worked for my uncle since I was a small boy, people looked down on me. I later on took a loan from my uncle to open a tiny shop. I worked hard to make ends meet. Now I am the richest Man in Africa.

*LESSON:* Failures or limitations of the past have no control over the greatness in you. To him that believes, all things are possible.

12. *Barack Hussein Obama said,* I am a son of a black immigrant from Kenya, I graduated from Harvard and later on became a Senator in Chicago. I was also the President of the most powerful nation on Earth.

*LESSON:* Never design your life like a garden where anyone can walk in and out. Design it like the sky where everyone aspires to reach!

13. *Arnold Swarzzenegger said,* I traveled to America in search of financial independence when I was 15yrs old. I became the world's strongest man 7 times and Mr Universe. I then got my Economics degree, then I became one of Hollywood's best actors before I was voted twice as governor of California."

*LESSON:* Don't wait for everybody to believe in your ability and dreams.

Beloved endeavour to be good to people you meet everyday, fear God and live peacefully with anyone you meet in life

source: Styli Man Ikoyi Eso 

10 Habits to Implement to Become Highly Valuable in Your 20s and 30s

10 Habits to Implement to Become Highly Valuable in Your 20s and 30s:

 ° Visualizing Your Future

Life is surprisingly simple.

If you know where you want to go, your brain will start figuring out ways to get there.

° Learning to Say NO

Success means putting your work on a pedestal.

It never gets easy saying NO to my friends or family...

Nevertheless It's the sacrifice I have to make.

° Avoiding Negative Environments

Our surroundings dictate the habits we partake in

It makes more sense to stop going to bars than to go and resist the urge to drink.

Your environment either works with you or against you.

° Neglecting Dating Life

Dating takes a lot of time and practice. Even if it’s mostly Tinder.

Instead, you should always focus on yourself:

• Get fit

• Make money

• Help your family

And when the right girl arrives, you'll have every tool to secure her.

° Fasting

Food is the enemy of focus. (mostly carbs)

And lack of focus is detrimental to succeed in any field.

Fasting for as little as 3-5 hours in the morning will significantly improve your output.

° Habit Stacking

Time is scarce.

And you can’t do everything in a 16 hour period.

Habit stacking is combing 2 or more tasks together

- like walking and listening to an audiobook.

You free up time for other things whilst accomplishing multiple objectives at once.

° Strategic Friction

Managing habits is simple

And the best way to do so is to play around with friction.

If you want to adopt a new habit — decrease friction

If you want to remove an old habit — increase friction

go to the gym? → pack your gym bag the night before

stop snacking? → remove snacks from your house

Simple yet extremely powerful.

° No Phone whilst Working

Have you ever received a notification and instantly glanced at your phone?

Like outrageously fast.

That’s how addicted your brain is to that signal.

And having your phone in the room whilst working is simply a battle you are destined to lose.

Leave your phone outside next time you sit down for work.

° Short Work Blocks

Working non-stop for long hours is ludicrous

Our brains get tired like muscles do after working out

It needs time to recover

15- 30 minutes at the bare minimum.

Shorter, purposeful work sessions yield greater results than longer, tedious ones.

° Buzzing my Hair

When you spend so much time and energy on developing yourself

The last thing you’d want to worry about is whether or not you are having a bad hair day.